No one is going to believe in you until you believe in yourself. Your belief in yourself is very apparent by the way you talk, walk and conduct yourself.

Not many people are drawn to someone so overflowing with self-belief that it makes them impossible to deal with. However, you still need to constantly work on your self-belief.

• Concentrate on what you do well, not what you don’t!
• Concentrate on what you’ve done, not what you haven’t.
• Concentrate on what you do, not what you don’t!

Overcome negative programming

Some people are fortunate to have been brought up in an environment that develops their self-belief. Their parents and their upbringing encourage them to be as good as they can be.

I was listening to a colleague, talking on the phone to her six-year-old child the other day. He was telling her about his school sports day and how well he had done in the race he’d entered.

I heard Jenny say – ‘Well done, fantastic, that’s great, I’m really proud of you!’

It turns out that her little boy had come second in his race, and it made me think how some other parents might react. They might have said – ‘Too bad you didn’t win. That’s a pity. Never mind, better luck next time. Who was it who came first in the race?’

Which of these responses is going to develop a child’s belief in himself; obviously the first reaction? If Jenny’s little boy receives that kind of response for being second; what does he think he will receive for being first?  The second response only reduces the child’s belief in himself.

Sadly, most of us do not receive regular boosts to our self-belief. But that doesn’t mean we can’t change it.

What the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve – Napoleon Hill

Write this down

Take a moment, find a piece of paper and write down everything you have achieved in your life. Don’t trivialise anything, write it down. We often think that some things we’ve achieved are not such a big deal.

I know people with a university degree who don’t think it’s that important. Well I don’t have one and I wish I did. But I don’t let it bother me; I just think about the fact that I’ve written three best-selling books and I’m a successful international speaker. author, and narrator.

Think about your superpowers; all the qualities you have; the things you are good at. How do you rate in:

• Determination
• Popularity
• Dignity
• Humour
• Sex appeal
• Calm disposition
• Approachability
• Generosity

Always remember that you have qualities and skills that other people do not have and you should be proud of these and believe in yourself.

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