The real reason you can’t focus at work

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How successful people beat stress

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This CEO says you should work less to be more productive

As a boss of mine once said – ‘It’s not the hours you put in, but what you put into the hours.’

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5 Things You Need to Know About Coffee the Wonder-Beverage

Only one cup a day for me. But it’s big and strong and black. Yeah I’m still talking about coffee!

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You Asked: Are My Devices Messing With My Brain?

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There Is No Try

Just imagine for a moment that the weather has been really good and you decide to have yoda2barbecue this weekend. You phone all your friends to invite them over, and one of them says, ‘We have a couple of things to do that day, but we’ll try and come.’

What does that statement mean to you? When I put this scenario to a group of seminar participants, the majority come back with, ‘Your friend’s not coming!’ Some people think the friend might turn up, and the others have no idea.

It’s a big no-no

If you use the word try to another person, the majority tend to hear it as a negative.

‘I’ll try to get this in the post tonight’ means – you probably won’t.

‘I’ll try and phone you tomorrow’ means – you won’t.

Of course, it all depends on your relationship with the other person and perhaps their tone of voice and their body language, but I repeat; the majority of people hear the word try as a negative.

Be honest

Try is a word to avoid whether you’re dealing with a friend, customer, a colleague or a member of your staff.

It can be replaced with something more honest such as – ‘This is what I can do’ or ‘This is what I’m unable to do.’

Instead of saying; ‘I’ll try and do this for you today’.

Why not say; ‘I’d like to think I could do this for you today, but I will do it for you tomorrow morning.’

You could even be more direct and say; ‘I’m unable to do this for you today, but I’ll be pleased to do it tomorrow morning.’

Customers, staff and all other people would rather know where they stand rather than hear the “wishy-washy” try word.

Do, or do not. There is no try – Yoda (from Star Wars)

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18 Behaviors of Emotionally Intelligent People

Some have it; some don’t. I believe it can be developed in everyone, and I can show you how to do that. Get in touch if you want to know more. But for the moment, I recomend this article.

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Who runs your mind?

Has this ever happened to you? You’re about to meet or speak to a customer, a new colleague or even somebody in your social life, and someone else describes this person to you. Let me give you an example of what I mean.

I was running a seminar at a client’s office and I was discussing the arrangements for Angry businessmangetting into the building and finding the training room with my contact, Steve. He explained that I had to check in with the security guard at the reception desk.

‘You’ll not get much help from him,’ says Steve. He’s a typical security guard, a grumpy old so ‘n so and he won’t be much help.

My first response, when I arrived at the office, was to prepare to do battle with this typical security guard. However, at the last moment I checked myself, and decided to practice what I preach.

I approached the security guard, told him who I was in a warm and friendly manner, and asked for directions to the training room.

John, as his name badge indicated, said that he’d need to make a few phone calls to find out where my room was.

In between these calls, we exchanged some small talk, and even managed some comments about the local football team’s performance the night before.

Initially, John was a bit grumpy, but after a while he warmed up, and ultimately, couldn’t have been more helpful.

I treated him with respect, I spent time getting to know him, and I expected him to respond in a helpful manner – and that’s how he responded.

Steve, of course, had this thing in his head about typical security guards and treated John accordingly.

He expected John to be grumpy and unhelpful; so that was how John responded to him.

People will often respond just as you expect, it’s a self fulfilling prophecy.

So if you’re about to meet someone new, do not let other people decide your behaviour.

You have to decide who runs your mind; is it you, or is it somebody else?

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How successful people work less—and get more done

I’m sharing this because it makes sense to me. Too many people spend too much time achieving too little.

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The best tips for Self-Motivation

I have a confession to make; I, on occasion, have felt a little demotivated.Businessmen

Yes, I, ‘Motivationdoc,’ feel a bit lacking in motivation and self-belief from time to time, just like everybody else.

So, here comes the tips and something that works for me:

Spend time with positive people.

Most Saturdays, when I’m in the UK, I have lunch with five of my really good friends. They’re always interested in what I’m doing, really supportive and they really make me laugh! When I leave them, I feel much better and more motivated than I did before we met.

I like to think that I do the same for them, and that’s the secret to receiving support and motivation from others.

Hand out some Warm Glows.

Help other people feel better about themselves; build their self-belief and that in turn will build your self-belief and motivate you.

If you help other people to love themselves, then they will love you!

Believe in yourself

I remember reading in the newspapers some years ago that Richard Branson, the entrepreneur, was going to start an airline. I knew he had been successful in other areas of business, but starting an airline seemed a mammoth task to me. He was going into competition with the worlds’ largest airlines that had been in the business for years. I didn’t believe he had a chance. However, Richard leased his first aeroplane, started Virgin Atlantic and as you know, the rest is history.

Step out of your comfort zone and take a risk

Sir Richard Branson is not a particularly well educated person in terms of academic qualifications, however, he has belief in himself and what he’s doing, and he’s prepared to take a risk.  These are some of the qualities that motivate him and drive him forward.

So, spend time with positive people. Step out of your comfort zone, take risks, and believe in yourself!

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